Thanks again for the continued comments and replies to my edit. After two years of being together with very few problems, it ended within 30 minutes of having "The Talk" about my future religiosity. Be specific every time you ask.
She will want her kids blessed, baptized, taking temple trips to baptize for the dead, hold the priesthood, a bishop will ask you sons and daughters if they masterbate and punish them if they do, etc. This blog accommodates some frank admissions about that which is less than wonderful about LDS. You join the LDS Church. And right at that moment when I'm about to tell him this, and give him some kind of ultimatum, I hesitate. The bottom line is that you are setting yourself up for difficult times ahead. I excused canceling plans, seeing each other only once a week, not being able to text much, etc. With his compartmentalized mind, if I walk away, he will close that door and move on.
I got married last year, left a great job, family, friends and city to be with my husband in a very small under developed town. Besides the obvious brain damage that you will be made to suffer your entire married life, there are future kids to think about. It does kick your butt!. Yes, talk talk talk about everything yoiu can think of, but beyond that I would suggest pre-marital counseling from people knowledgeable in each tradition at play this will probably take two different counselors, who might be faith-based. First, my dad was a wonderful husband to my mother the greatest mom on earthand a wonderful father to me. I intend to spend some quality time in the temple, with my bishop, and with close family and friends as I think and pray my way through this decision, but I would also value your insights into this.
I went in thinking "oh, we can definitely do this. As a parent, we hope our children will make life choices that will give them the greatest chance of happiness. In the long run, being married to a nonmember has made me a better person.