I have been dating my boyfriend for nine months and we haven't been intimate yet. I am a pretty sexual person, so I've asked him a few times why he doesn't want to move further in our relationship. In the beginning, he told me that his last relationship ended badly and that he hasn't had sex in four years, so he feels uncomfortable. I understood and didn't bring it up again for a few months. When I asked him again, he said that he's uncomfortable with sex. I asked him what he was uncomfortable with and he didn't have an answer other than "I don't know. In our nine months together, we kiss every time we see each other, but we've only made out twice. That's the furthest we've gone.
2. He could have lower levels of testosterone.
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While you were dating and during the honeymoon years of your marriage , you lovebirds likely couldn't keep your hands off of each other. Physical attraction and sex are trademark signs of a healthy relationship, according to research published in the Journal of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences. But how does sexual intimacy between partners adapt with age? As men age, it's natural for them to experience a somewhat decreased sex drive, says Jeanne O'Connell , M. According to a review published in the Journal of Nurse Practitioners , sexual intimacy declines around age 45 and continues to decline with age. Physiological components can be at play, such as age-related changes in blood flow and shifts in hormones.
Talk To Your Partner
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months now. We love each other and get on amazingly well. In the day he can be all over me, hugging and kissing me, holding my hand, saying how pretty I look and how attractive he thinks I am. This is all very well but I wish he'd show it in the bedroom! When we do have sex usually initiated by myself he finds it difficult to have an erection for more than ten minutes. I feel this is the root of the problem and is why he doesn't initiate sex with me. We've spoken about this many times trying to get to the root of the problem but with no luck! The funny thing is that throughout the day, he has no difficulty getting erect, but when it comes to having sex A big problem now is that when I feel in the mood for sex I tend to fantasize about other people, including one of my exes who I was very sexually active with.
It might be time to re-evaluate if you're suffering in a sexless marriage or relationship. If your experiencing similar problems, you certainly aren't alone. All attraction just went out the window. It can and does happen. The problem is, you can stop being attracted to a person sexually but still love them. Certain medications can cause libido to dip. In women, it often happens with birth control. Either way, if he's on medication and is experiencing a low sex drive, it may be time to consider taking a trip to the doctor to see if this may be the problem. You need to work on yourself to keep that spark alive; otherwise, just about everyone would lose their attraction to you. Ladies, this happens.
