Although there's no magic number of times you need to have sex in a marriage, lack of sex of emotional connection, and lead to infidelity. So what should you do if you and your spouse aren't having sex? Curiosity is important, as reigniting the flame requires getting to the root of the problem. We'll cover these issues in more detail later, along with the different types of sexless marriages and common problems that arise when married couples stop having sex. First, it's important to realize that a sexual resurgence is possible, especially when couples are willing to seek professional help. In many situations, sex continues to be a taboo topic, but in marriage, it's essential to keep the subject open for discussion.

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Physical intimacy is what makes a relationship more than just a platonic friendship. Some couples fall into a pattern or habit of letting the physical part of their marriage fall by the wayside. While there is a "normal" drop off within the first few years of marriage, particularly if kids come into the picture, complete loss of this physical aspect of marriage often signals a marital problem that needs to be addressed. Without the physical intimacy that differentiates a romantic partnership from a platonic one, married couples can become more-or-less roommates. If both partners are OK with this type of relationship, it doesn't call for concern. But often, one or both partners become frustrated or hurt by the loss of physical intimacy and sex. There are many possible reasons that a marriage may become sexless from health to lifestyle factors. A person's overall physical and mental health can have a major impact on their libido and desire for physical intimacy. It can also disrupt the physiological process of arousal in both sexes. Mismatched sexual libidos sex drives : Not everyone desires the same amount of sex, and sex drive has a natural ebb and flow.
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S ex is an important part of any relationship, but what happens if it stops? Last week, we looked at how you can get the spark back, with an article by Joan McFadden in which she offered advice to couples on how to cope with a lack of sex. At the beginning of a relationship, sex can be so easy, natural and exciting that it can feel a little sad that you might have to work at it, but the results can be well worth it. We also invited readers to share their thoughts and experiences. Here six people talk about what happens when passion leaves a relationship. When I got together with my now wife, the sex was fantastic. We were entirely compatible and had similar tastes. After a couple of years, that changed. Initially I thought it was just the natural ebb and flow of a relationship and life stresses etc were getting in the way.
No one talks about having a sexless marriage. The closest I get is hearing other men joking about their wives not being interested in sex any more, but we were never really interested in sex, even when we met 25 years ago. I met Alison at a party and was smitten straight away. She was just a delight to be with and I loved her company and very quickly loved her. We spent as much time together as we could and although we hugged and kissed and held hands neither of us mentioned going further. When I proposed I did the whole thing of asking her dad, buying a ring and taking her out for a romantic dinner. We were quite relaxed and while we were away on honeymoon we had sex a few times I think because we felt we should and we were delighted when Alison got pregnant straightaway. She was quite sick and then feeding, so our daughter was actually nearly two when we had sex again.