If you end up marrying a true believing Mormon, your marriage will be a threesome. In the endвthe very endвGod loves my husband even more than I love him. The thing is I didn't want to marry someone who I'd never see or spend time with. I started dating "A" right after he graduated med school and as he started his residency. Earlier I mentioned "Even if the church believes a bunch of crazy nonsense, and she believes it too, I still really like her and would like to see whether we can have some good intellectual conversations about this stuff.
In many ways, you yield some authority to the church. You just have to decide if the payoff is worth it. Did you know Joseph smith married the wives of other living men. I hate to say it, but I don't see this ending well.
She will be pressured and will likely shut you out. Her brain has been wired from birth by said cult. These are nice people. If you can only think of alcohol and coffee for a good time, you're very disappointed. I went back to school and received a Master's degree from a prestigious university Driving more than an hour each way 6 days a week to so; doing several excavation seasons and tons of research in order to achieve a cherished goal that had been denied me as a young woman. Expect that you will do the majority of parenting and attend school functions alone. I grew up believing that when, where, and by what authority I was married were equally important to whom I married. I'm married an interventional cardiologist; and I wish I only knew 5 years ago before she started her fellowship what the heck I was signing up for. I have been dating a neuro surgeon that has his own practice for a few months now.
I am a non-Mormon woman married to a Mormon manвwhich seems to be a less common scenario in the LDS world. This makes them overwhelmingly successful wives and mothers. I'm not saying you shouldn't pursue the relationship, but I'd only recommend marrying her if she leaves the church because she discovers it's not true. It's gonna hurt, and it's gonna break her heart, but much less so than waiting until you've both committed to each other and start discussing your future together. Two very simple things that require so much effort and understanding. However, I believe there are rules set, and we receive certain blessings when we obey said rules.