We still have great sex 3 or 4 times a week and, no, he doesn't use Viagra, Ciasis, etc. And the longer you see her you won't be getting out of anything soon either. I can completely relate to all the other doctor' s wives feelings and life experiences. She views patriarchy as a quality of God. I sacrificed my career not in medicine but I have advanced degrees in my profession because I felt so lucky to be able to be at home raising my two wonderful sons.
I wish I could reach out to this girl and tell her not to pass up an awesome guy. Jesus might have seemed like a cute, imaginary playmate at first, but on some level I would have been expecting to help her get over it. My kids have run as far away from medicine as possible in terms of a career and my daughter only dates people who have balance in their lives. But please also know that the people who love you are hoping you make the right decision because they want you to be happy. I know the majority of them are great, but there are so many who are like vultures and will latch on to any male doctor like he is theirs. I can handle a lot of daily mindless, nonverbal things, like cuddling for a bit before bed, but phone calls and even texting can be exhausting in a way that is very difficult to explain. Life is suddenly wonderful, and you catch yourself smiling, humming, and happy all the time.
Congratulations on understanding that and avoiding problems. Unfortunately, this has led to a culture of Mormon girls who are absolutely obsessed with Disney and even as adults dream of being Disney princesses. BUT it could easily have gone the other way. I was definitely taking the "Tough love" approach because I've read countless times on this and other boards, how Mormons claimed that they were cool with their SO not being Mormon, and that they weren't, themselves, orthodox. I am a 47 yr old Mom of a 4 yr old child with special needs who is completely alone to care for my child a good part of the time.
Give yourself some credit for being attracted to the good side of the Force. And as an outsider it will be obvious to you what's going on, but here's an awesome breakdown from a couple that flipped from "we go to church every week - we will write a Mormon blog" to resigning over the new policy banning children of gays all over the NY Times this month and something that is upsetting many staunch church members a few days ago. She converts to your religion. I've learned that when I need attention, it's best to ask for it rather than wasting time acting sad or frustrated. She's already past her prime in the Mormon dating market.