Her goal is to make you mormon. My husband has gone from proselytizing and thinking he knows it all to a real spiritual seeker, albeit with a strong testimony in the church. I hate that it's all on his terms. There is NO guarantee that marrying a returned missionary RM in the temple equates with love and happiness. Marriage offers a chance to develop generosity of spirit and a willingness to be improved by the one we love, no matter what faith tradition he or she may claim. Hi all, It's really interesting to read all of your experiences and how you've worked through the difficult times. You will be able to best gauge where her beliefs stand in regards to the church if you listen to how she describes her mission. Then she can have a chance to actually be the individual she is, and they can have an adult conversation about their future and whether or not they have one. After enough years of this, you stop trying.
His hectic job aside, he is an amazing man, very loving and family oriented, which is what I have always wanted. I let her know it's not healthy to expect someone else to change - we can only control ourselves and not others. So you made a wise decision. I dated non mormon men. It is exactly what I needed. It doesn't get better. Tough to say what will impact your girl most - but there's your best LDS.
Don't wait for it to eventually fall apart or hope that she will change. I have already been told I will "lose" to medicine if I put pressure on him. I prayed about whether to marry this man, and I felt and still feel strongly that it was right for me.
Pray about it and follow your heart. Discover the joys of a non-sexual relationship and find sincere ways to show affection without sex. I hate to say it, but I don't see this ending well. I wouldn't end a relationship with her, just as I wouldn't deny someone a job, or refuse to socialize with someone who is a Mormon. A lot of Mormons think that good people will obviously recognize the truthfulness of the church and quickly join. If it's true, it'll come out of the criticism looking better. There is much that needs to change and many hearts to educate but if we doubt some of the fundamentals then why not all of them.